Category: My Thoughts on Life

The Sharp Knife Of A Short Life – Remembering My Cousin Emily

The Sharp Knife Of A Short Life – Remembering My Cousin Emily

We all sat around the table in my grandmother’s kitchen, talking.  So many of my family’s roads lead to my grandparents’ kitchen.  The children were in the living room playing loudly, my father watching over them with a protective eye.  Over plastic plates filled with chicken, beans, slaw, and more, we swapped stories – sometimes laughing, sometimes smiling.  It was a familiar moment there at table, shared by us countless times over the years.  But this time was different.  This time, we were sharing stories about my cousin Emily.  She had just turned 31 a few weeks earlier and that afternoon we had buried her.

 

My mom had called to tell me Emily had been taken to the hospital on Saturday night, the 14th.  That Sunday, the 15th, was her 31st birthday.  I learned that her liver had failed and she had been put in a medically induced coma.  Her brain began to swell and she eventually developed an infection in her lungs.  Any one of those conditions alone would have been daunting, but taken together – well, the outlook wasn’t good.    

 

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My 2012 “To Do” List

My 2012 “To Do” List

Here I sit, on January 1st, and find myself again thinking about what I want to accomplish in the New Year.  2011 was a year of great change, great excitement, and great stress – but all in all, it was a pretty good ride.  When I sat in this chair on January 1st last year, I put together a list of 15 things I wanted to accomplish in 2011 (you can read it here.)  I didn’t get to them all, but I’m proud to say I was able to cross 10 of them off the list.  In particular, I’m proud to say that I lost a total of 65 pounds last year, was able to do another interview with a NY Times Best Selling author, saw Rock of Ages twice more (both with Constantine), and tried my best to be a better father, husband, brother, and son.

 

So what does that leave for 2012?  I’m glad you asked.  It’s going to be another exciting year (I hope), as long as those pesky Mayans are wrong.  I have lots more change coming my way, but also have lots more opportunity to try new things and embark on new adventures.  Just as last year, I’m going to put it all out there and trust you to hold me accountable for my success or failure.  Who knows, I might even remember to give a mid-year update this year.  I guess we’ll just have to wait and see. So, without further adieu, here’s my list for 2012.

 

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Reflections on Christmas: The Best Of Who We Are

Reflections on Christmas: The Best Of Who We Are

Sitting there on Christmas night, listening to carols by the light of the tree, I kept telling myself I should get up and go to bed.  It was after 2:00AM and it had been a long day.  The thing was – it had been a great Christmas and I really didn’t want it to end.  It’s curious, that – finding moments in time and wishing they could last forever; holding on to the assurance of “now” and avoiding the uncertainty of “later”.  I really didn’t want Christmas to end this year.  “Maybe just one more song…”

 

This was probably the last year my son will believe in Santa Claus.  Truth be told, I think he may have figured it out already, but I can’t be sure.  Knowing this was likely the last year he would truly see Christmas through a child’s eyes, I couldn’t help but be a little melancholy.  Christmas will still be special – but something will never be the same for him after this year.  A piece of his youth will pass away into memory, and he’ll never be able to quite recapture that feeling again. 

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Hold On To The Nights

Hold On To The Nights

Have you ever had one of those moments when a song comes on the radio and, in an instant, you find yourself in another time and another place?  Just a few seconds of music and you begin to relive a fragment of your past with perfect clarity?  The sights, the sounds, the smells – everything comes rushing back to you?

 

I had one of those moments last week while on my way to the airport to catch a flight.  As I came barreling into the parking lot, “Hold On To The Nights” by Richard Marx came on the radio – and just like that, I was back in high school.  It was a moment that took me by surprise with its suddenness and intensity – and it brought my mad dash to the airport to a screeching halt.   

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Zombie University – It could save your life

Zombie University – It could save your life

As we all get ready for the Holiday season, it’s important to be prepared.  The chances of a zombie outbreak are always greater when you find yourself in a shopping mall.  As you all get out to brave the masses over the next few weeks, make sure you are alert for signs of the undead.  For those not as conversant in all things zombie, I’ve found an informative and video to teach you Zombies 101.  Please take time to watch this video and share it with your family and friends.  It could be the difference between becoming a survivor and becoming bait.